friendship · Life · relationships

When You are Not Enough

There are times it seems like no matter what you do and how much you try to be a good person, nothing you do is enough for some people. Sometimes you are around people who find something wrong in everything you do. No matter what you do, it isn’t enough. What you must remember is that sometimes people are so unhappy with themselves that they find a need to point out your flaws and mistakes to make themselves feel better. And when this happens, you have to take a look around you and decide if these people are worth keeping around, because there comes a point when all these people are doing is dragging you down and making you feel unworthy. Sometimes you need to take a look around and reevaluate who you are choosing to spend your time with, because those people will be the ones who influence you the most.

In life people will hurt you. People will talk about you behind your back. People will judge you, and people will pick you apart and criticize you. And in these situations, you have a choice. You can let it affect you immensely and you can get angry and hurt, or you can walk away and accept that these people may have hurt you but you have learned something from them and you are now a better and stronger person because you turned your hurt and anger into something positive. That’s the thing, dealing with people may not always be easy but you will learn, and you will come away from negative relationships and situations knowing more about yourself and you will be stronger because of it.

The relationships that are supposed to be in your life will be with people who are true to you. They will understand, without you having to explain. They will be there for you no matter what. They will be uplifting, positive, and encouraging. You will know when you are around them because you feel good about yourself, not worse. You feel lifted higher, not brought down even lower. You will be content in their presence, not needing to hide or pretend. You can be free and real and candid, and they will love you and accept you regardless. I am lucky enough to have found the people in my life who are all of these things. Although it took me a long time to realize that it’s not about how many friends you have, it’s about finding the true ones, even if that’s only one person. I have the best friend a girl could ask for, an incredibly loving boyfriend who is my other half, and a family who would go to the ends of the earth for me. I have all the people I need and I am blessed.

If you are around people who only leave you tangled in negativity, only cause you pain and distress, and make you feel unworthy and empty, I encourage you to walk away. Distance yourself from the people who aren’t filling you up and who are only emptying you out. I encourage you to seek out people who will love you for who you are, who will accept you, flaws and all. Find the people that bring you joy and happiness, who have a positive influence on your life.

Know that you are enough, and find the people who make you feel it too.

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